One of the strongest patterns that I’ve been unraveling over the last few years is the addiction to being a martyr.
I come from a long line of ‘world class’ martyrs so it was certainly ground deep into my DNA. Martyrdom was worn like a badge of honour in my family and anyone setting healthy boundaries and not exhausting themselves to serve others was labelled selfish.
Through my 20’s I worked hard on learning to set boundaries, say no and follow my intuition over the needs of others.
By my 30’s I thought I had mastered my people pleasing tendencies and was living alone, traveling the world and following the beat of my heart. I felt almost unfuckwithable…
Then… enter my forties… my soul mate and two kids later and the martyr who was hiding suppressed in my cells came out to run the show.
Turns out there was no real mastery in my 30’s… just an elaborate building of invisible walls between me and others. I had simply mastered keeping people at arms length while giving the impression I was wide open and free.
The martyrdom was still alive and well just waiting for the deep intimacy that living with your soul mate and birthing two babes brings.
As a mother my boundaries were all over the shop. My needs were running a clear fourth in a family of four. I was tired, resentful, grumpy and constantly dreaming of being alone again.
It was my dream to meet my soul mate and have kids but it was almost impossible to be grateful with the martyr in the drivers seat.
My partner was constantly prompting me to put my needs first but thankfully he isn’t a rescuer, so I had to empower myself.
At my most exhausted, I felt far from the wild, free, present and empowered woman I thought I was. But I was also wise enough to not stay stuck for long and took back my power to increasingly honour what I need to thrive amongst family and entrepreneurial life.
Motherhood has humbled me. The martyr has finally been put in the back seat where she belongs. She whines at me from time to time but she no longer makes any decisions on my behalf.
Martyrdom is one of the most overlooked patterns for parents and business owners that can rob us of the success and fulfilment we desire and deserve.
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Courtney Prosser is a Transformational Mentor who guides you to boost your success, manage your stress and deepen your fulfilment. She is the creator of RADIANCE a coaching program that guides you to thrive and shine like a diamond.